how do i stop being involved in rapes?
-Sister Todd
dear sister todd,
a person's actions are entirely under his own control. thus i suspect that your participation in any and all rapes you have been involved in was voluntary. so my answer is this: the way you stop being involved in rapes is to stop wanting to be involved in rapes. either that or stop letting me duct tape you to stuff.
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there's this guy who used to be in love with me. he's really shy. his best friend told me that the guy (let's call him nick) liked me, as well as several other people. then nick started getting suspicious that i liked him, when i didn't, and started avoiding me and not liking me. now i like him and i don't know what to do about it... and i know that sounds really preppy but ya know it's love n junk.
-leigh jessica
dear leigh jessica,
this nick sounds like a real dork. i'm sorry, but i've had it with boys who don't like a girl once she likes him back. that really sucks. i suspect, though, nick started avoiding you not because he was "suspicious" that you liked him, but because he was embarrassed that you knew he liked you and that he thought you DIDN'T like him. that makes a lot more sense to me somehow. then again, i'm a girl. hm.
and now you like him! ah! well, you know he is attracted to you at least somewhat, since he used to like you. i say approach him for a little chat. say "nick, i like to be straightforward about things, so i'm just going to say this: i like you. i know you used to like me. why'd you stop? that sucks. i'm still cool. like me again." that might be what i'd do. then again i've never had much success with this type of thing. i told you i give bad advice!
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I come to your site alot, and I am thinking about buying a domain name. Have been for about a year actually. I have two problems. The first is what exactly I should buy. I have no creativity, but I won't ask you to rack your brain on that. What I really want help with is who to host with.
I was all for Feature Price, until like two seconds ago when I saw that you switched to IPowerWeb. You said Feature Price tech support sucked, so lets assume I am tech savvy (I am not) and have you compare the two hosts, coming out with a recomendation based on everything else (page load time, admin console provided, faetures that come with the plans you have, etc.)
I hope you answer, as I figure it will be a break from, "should I ask him out". . . or, "omg, lik, ur soo kewl, will u go out wit me?".
Hope to hear from you -
-where to host
dear where to host,
featureprice was actually not a bad host until i tried to upgrade/renew my account with them and they screwed up and lost me as a customer. you get a dedicated server there, if that's important to you. it doesn't really matter much, though. featureprice recently did an overhaul of their whole system, and apparently they have this new "control panel" thing that's supposedly quite nifty. i find it confusing from the little experience i had with it and much preferred the old school plesk admin.
ipowerweb has a "control panel" too and i actually like theirs better. you can have 300 email addresses on ipowerweb. the plan i'm on here supports ssi--for a plan that supports ssi on featureprice, it's a lot more than i'm paying on ipowerweb. ipowerweb also has lots of neat cgi scrips (and some not so neat ones) available for use. lots of features i haven't played with yet. so far i like them. their customer service is spectacular as well. plus, they have web-based email if you want to check your mail away from home. yum.
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i go to middle school in NY, in manhatten... isnt the problem obvious?
-max
dear max,
middle school is a hellhole. hopefully you'll be able to spell manhattan correctly when you get out of it, though. manhattan's cool anyway. i go to college there. wow. you must be at least ten years younger than me. crikey.
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I have a problem. I insist on killing potatos whenever I see them. I also kill socks. I really don't know what to do! My boyfriend is getting irritated with coming over and seeing shredded socks all over the floor, and they smell unsually sneezy. Please help.
-mhweep
dear mhweep,
when i was in grades 7-12, i had this magazine called vampire with my friend lisa. in it we included an advice column that was probably the funniest part of the whole endeavor. it was definitely the most fun part to write. we'd sit in my room (or sometimes her room) and once of us would write in a ridiculous question, and the other would be forced to answer it. for some reason, socks, boyfriends, and smells were mentioned quite often. your question reminds me of something we'd have put in vampire. so i'm going to answer it the way i would have if lisa had written it:
"i cannot help you. what you need is the help of a sheep. everyone knows that. only sheep can help a potato assasin. duuuuuhalkfjalkf."
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Sometimes I have weird urges to wear black horn-rimmed glasses. It scares me.
-Kaci
dear kaci,
wear the glasses. i'm sure it suits you if you're having these urges. don't be scared. some people have urges to do worse things than wear black horn-rimmed glasses. sometimes these urges involve duct tape. you'll be fine.
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ok im 13 and just started my period, and i went out and bought a package of tampons and my mother found them underneath my bed. now shes gives off this..weird...attitude towards me. HELPPP!!!!
-kirsten
dear kirsten,
i can't get over that you started your period and didn't tell your mom. that's probably why she's giving off a weird attitude. if i had a daughter and she started her period and didn't feel comfortable enough coming to me for help with it, i think i'd be sad and feel like a failure as a mother. you should go talk to your mom and say you've noticed she's being weird with you. this should open up a line of communication that seems to be necessary. maybe you'll have a nice chat.
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any advice to get over a guy? i know it takes time, though i have been waiting for a year. i'm in another relationship right now and i love him, but sometimes i still think of my ex and have dreams about him. i'm confused.
-beth
dear beth,
this is really jaded of me, but honestly, the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. really. then again, it sounds like you're already under someone else. so to speak. i don't understand how you can say you love the boy you are currently dating, but still not be over your ex. maybe you ARE over him, in a way. having dreams about someone doesn't mean you're not over them. still thinking about someone doesn't mean you're not over them. you'd not be over him if you turned down hanging out with your boyfriend to call your ex on the phone or something. that's my definition, anyway.
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