This one guy keeps hitting on me. I'm not interested, but I
try to be nice to everyone and I think he takes it as proof that I like
him. How do I get him to back off without being mean?
-- = Sophia
Tell him you like someone else. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
hey ellie,
so, here is the moral dilemma. my school recognizes a "day of silence"
every april where kids can choose to carry a special card and go silent
for one full school day. this is to acknowledge the silence gays and
lesbians have had to endure in the past due to all the prejudice,
hostility, etc. the theory is that all those missing voices in class make a
statement more powerful than words.
ok, here is the thing. i participated in this freshman and junior year.
(sophomore year i forgot.) so now i'm a senior, and i feel like if i'm
going to do it i need to be pretty gung-ho about it. but the day of
silence has taken a lot of flack in recent years because a lot of people
say it's not enough and doesn't make an effective statement. it doesn't
DO anything. they never propose an alternative, though. they just don't
participate.
i feel like it's not really any less effective than any protest or
demonstration. its purpose is just to raise awareness. but sometimes i
start to feel like maybe the naysayers are right and this thing is just
some silly flag-waving opportunity for people to call themselves
"activists" and feel better about themselves. some people probably do use it
like that. i go back and forth between whether the day of silence is a
real show of belief or just ridiculous.
so if i participate, i want to feel pretty sure that i'm not just
making some empty gesture. and i can't really figure out WHAT i think about
it. i know you can't tell me what to do, but what is your opinion of
demonstrations like this? stupid or worthwhile?
thanks.
-- = tonya
I don't think it matters if it's a show or sincere. People's motives don't matter. It's an excellent way to make a statement. Can you even imagine such a thing taking place in most high schools? -- Eleanor Roosevelt
well there is this girl im in love with, shes my best friend
and we decided that we are going to get married later in life, but she
doesnt want to go out with me right now, i ask her out every day but
she always says no, but she doesnt want me to stop asking. we say i love
you to eachother but she just wont go out with me??? what to do??
-- = Trey
She doesn't want you to stop asking because she's flattered. She won't go out with you because she's holding out hope that she can do better. Next time she rejects you, say "ok, have it your way. Let me know when you're ready. I might still be willing." --Eleanor Roosevelt
Hello. I just put in my two-weeks' notice at my job. The work
environment between my immediate supervisor and I became extremely
hostile, and she became very discriminatory towards my fellow female
co-workers and I. Since I have put in two-weeks', I was wondering what kind
of a case I would have if I brought this to an attorney's attention. I
have documented proof that I have told my store director, but he refused
to do anything about the problem. In yours (or Laura's) opinion, would
this make for a good case? My work is one of the top 3 grocery chains
in the nation, just in case you wanted to know.
-- = Melissa
I can't give you legal advice. I'm a lizard, not a lawyer! I do think that the situation you described sounds illegal, though. And I do know that if you call a discrimination lawyer, they will tell you if you have a case for free. Then they will take it and there's no fee for you unless they win. So get out the yellow pages. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
I had sex for the first time. I feel sort of bad because I've
only dated him for about two weeks. He's very persistant, though, and
it happened. And I feel sort of weird about it because we did it in my
highschool at a overnight school lockin, we just snuck off into the
hallway that was all dark and locked off and restricted for the night. But
anyway, to the problem: I didn't really think that we'd do anything, so
I didn't shave. So when we were doing everything he looked really
disgusted when he first saw my pubic hair. It didn't slow him down, so I
didn't see what the big deal was. Later, he asked me why I didn't shave
and I sort of shrugged it off, I was to embarrassed to talk about it. I
tolerated his hairy ass, didn't I? We didn't really talk all night after
that because I fell asleep. Things just havn't been as romantic between
us since. We're still dating (a month later) and we've had sex once
since that happened. I shaved for it, but it's not like it was bef
ore we had sex the first time. Can I fix the relationship?
-- = Jentry
No, you can't fix the relationship. He is a no good goon. Tell him he's too gross to put his thingie in little old you anymore and you'll have none of it. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
Why do I come to your site?
-- = Bill
To click the google ads. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
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