Important Note: For my next column, when you write to me with a question, specify whether you are a Republican or a Democrat so I have better insight into how to advise you. If your question involves others, identify their party affiliation too.
I have a friend issue, Hyena (an obvious alias). She's a nice
friend and everything, but sometimes, well most of the time, she gets
on my nerves sooooo much. She's always so interested in what she's
saying, but gets inconsiderate towards others' feelings and what THEY have
to say. She acts like she knows everything, and understands everything
about people she doesn't know. Ex: A very good friend I have,
mmm...Panda. Hyena's only met her twice that time, and she's been saying "Oh, you
know how Panda is!", "Hi best bud!" and stuff like that. It's not just
me who's annoyed of her. It's not that we talk behind her back, I can
just tell that friends are getting tired of her bickering. The worst
part is, i can't tell her to stop things, or leave me alone for a while.
She either think it's offensive, or thinks it's a joke. What should i do
about her? I dont think I can stand her following, talking,
complaining, or her need to be explained things. PLEASE HELP MEEEE!!!
-- = Tiger
If you don't do something to get her to change, you're not going to be friends for long. So ask yourself whether this friendship is worth saving. Also ask yourself whether you'd rather let it just fade away or explode in your face. If it is worth saving and exploding doesn't sound so bad, you might want to try talking to her to tell her to cut it out. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
um lets c i dont know who to hang out with high school..its
with my friend alli and some of her friends from church group ther
really cool and everything but i dont no...there like punkers and stuff but
they dont like chrissa....or should i hang out with chrissa and th
people i hung out with last year???? HELP!! but the only thing i dont feel
comfy around alli's new friends maybe cuz im not punk life...but they r
really kool!! so would u HELP ME!!! thanx :)
-- = Christina
Don't ditch people you were friends with last year just because new people come along. I think you should try to be in both Chrissa's group and the punk group. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
Dear Ms. Roosevelt,
My problem is that I'm 27 and I'm a huge loser. I already know all the
things I could do to stop being a loser. I could stop drinking, or at
least cut back, I could get a job or stop screwing around. I could pay
my rent on time or try to "marry up" (but if you knew the people I know
you'd know why that's a silly idea). I've recently been inspired to
wreak change in my everyday life, but I'm still afraid I'm just a loser
and always will be. I'm going job hunting on Tuesday (part of the
reason I don't have a job is that I haven't been looking), but I'm drunk
right now. What do you think? I'm looking for the easy answer here.
Something along the lines of, "go on the Atkins diet" or "join a cult" or
"shut UP!" Can you help me?
-- = Kell
You drink and look for a job at the same time. Cover letters that are greased with liquor can reveal a bit more of your soul. Just balance your life. Just don't let employers know that you're drunk. Ever. Here's somethhing easy you can do -- until you find a job, volunteer with some organization. It makes you more employable and it will help you get the discipline you'll need to not be a loser. Meals on Wheels can be rewarding. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
Eleanor, i am australian. my prime minister is a dick who's
having an affair with your president, Dubya. how can i destroy it
-- = wilbur
Feed him antifreeze. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
everything seems like its screwing up. my friends are all
changing and turning into assholes.. sometimes i feel like i dont have
anyone anymore. what should i do? and please dont say talk to them about
it.. unless you have something for me to SAY
-- = brenna
Give up and wait a few years until you find some new friends. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
I hate my brothers, what should I do?
-- = Siofra
Put flour in their bathtowels. Then they will go to dry off and end up covered in dough! Hahahaha. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
HeYoOz...umm your site totally rocks man!!...My name is
stacey and im a 14 year old female...anyways the thing i want to ask you is
i think im bi sexual because i like to look at naked girls and
yeah...one of my friends is bi and some people talk behind her back and i dont
want this to happen to me so what should i do...tell my friends or kept
it to myself?..PLEASE REPLY
-- = Stacey
I think you should tell your enemies. It's a lot harder to gossip about someone who throws things in your face like that. Then you can shrug off everything they say about you anyway, and they can't spread rumors because you can say "I don't hide anything. If I were having sex with a dog, I'd tell people." "So what?" is the best attitude to have in life. There's no arguing with it. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
are u still a virgin if you have girl on girl sex?
-- = stacey
If I had sex with another girl, and a boy who wanted to have sex with me asked if I was a virgin, I'd say yes. If a girl who wanted to have sex with me asked, I'd say no. If a girl was asking in a "Have you ever had sex with a boy?" way, I'd say yes (to the virgin question). Or I'd just say "I've had sex with a girl but not a boy," in all situations. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
Dear Eleanor,
My best friend has recently become really REALLY clingy! At school, I'm
her only friend because her other best friend left last year. Because
of this, she sits next to me in every single lesson and prevents me from
talking to my other friends. Outside of school, she has to know what
I'm doing all the time. And now she has started to copy all the things I
do/say/wear/listen to etc. etc. I've now stopped telling her certain
things like what I want to do when I'm older because I know that she'll
copy me (last year I told her what subjects I was choosing and now she
has exactly the same timetable as me!) What do I do to stop her from
following me round all the time? I don't want to hurt her feelings and
I've tried dropping hints but she just ignores them. And I still want to
be friends with her, I just don't want her turning into my clone! What
should I do?
-- = unsure
The more distance you try to put between you two, the more she'll cling. The more she clings, the more distance you will try to put between you two. If you are going to confront her, try this technique. Say you like something. She'll say she likes it too. You say "I know." She will say "how?" You say because she copies everything. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
i feel so depressed at the moment, and i cant work out y. i
just found out that my ex, (we were really serious) has a new
girlfriend, and i shouldnt be upset by that but i really am. i have really
important exams soon, but i cant concentrate in lessons, and i cant think
straight, i have no motivation, and im constantly on the verge of tears.
what shood i do?
-- = mallory
Try drinking coffee. That gives some people motivation. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
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