I hang out with a group of girls, I dislike a few of the
girls in the group but I am forced to hang out with them.I feel as if it's
the only way i can hang out with the friends I like.
-- Candy
Invite the friends you like to do something with you. Especially one-on-one, because creating a group within a group right off the bat is obvious to everyone, and you need to be subtle to get these girls gone. So improve your relationships with the ones you like, and then give the others the boot. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
Dear eli, tell me why people dont like me, im shy and
diagnosed with social phobia, i will not talk to people, im scared i will have
to preform when i leave the house, it's something about my dad who made
fun of my voice when i was small and wee. is there something i dont
know that makes them hate quiet people?
-- = jamie
They don't necessarily hate you. 1) It's easier to make fun of quiet people. They might be joshing you just to get you to talk and be friends, but I can't say. 2) People don't befriend quiet people because people are lazy and it's easier to make friends with the person who comes up to you than to make the effort to talk to a quiet person. Then when you are the quiet person, you always feel in awe and grateful for the outgoing person who became your friend, and you think someone with that many friends could never be friends with you, and your lack of self-esteem dooms even this friendship to failure. Sorry about your voice. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
There's this guy at my school who is thoroughly dreamy. But he is the
shy/mysterious/aloof type of person. And so am I. I don't have an iota
of a clue how to ask him out(seeing as that I am exceptionally
reticent). PLEASE help me.
-- Dani
When asking out shy/mysterious/aloof types, you have to be blunt. You have to say "wanna go on a date?" and not something like "Would you like to do something with me some time?" Or he won't even know it's a date! Shy/mysterious/aloof types are strange like that. So go up to him and say "Wanna go on a date?" Then invite him to do something you like to do. Something he'd like to do too would help, but if only one of you is going to like it, make it you. You're gonna be running this date because you asked him out on it, so you can be like a tour guide of the date-journey. You can't do that if you're doing something you don't like. Also, it serves as an important litmus test. Would you really want to date someone who doesn't love what you love? So I know you're shy, but ask him anyone. If he doesn't like you, you'll forget about him in a year anyway and you can tell your grandkids about the advice from a wise old alligator. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
my crotch itches, i shaved down there, when will it stop
itching? why is it itching?
-- neclaragantagana
It will stop once it grows back or you shave it again. So pick one. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
I'm terribly confused, Ellie. Hey, we have the same name!
Anyways, I am not goth. I do not wish to be one. They whine too damn
much. But, I enjoy a great deal of goth clothing. It gives me great
warm fuzzly feelings inside. Or maybe that's the soymilk that I left
out for three days.
I am in a bind, though. My friends whom I love very much hate goths.
I don't mind goths, but I don't want to become crazy and morbid and
boring (as I said earlier). How can I make sure my clothing won't infect
my brain and make me write stupid poetry with titles like "Bleed bleed
bleed i wnat too die"? Should I stop wearing it? Or should I just say
fuck it and incorporate my loved goth clothing into a completely new
style? Or should I shut up and let you give the advice?
Much love to you, Eleanor.
-- Ellie (Eleanor) F.
Just make up your own style. If you really can have your mind taken over by the clothes you wear, you deserve to be a goth, rest their souls. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
I am currently a jazz studies/trombone performance double
major in college. Lately I've been feeling a like this is not truly my
"calling". BUT, I am obsessed with jazz and love it more than anything,
so as you can see I feel rather conflicted. I've thought about
becoming a sociology major, or something where I get to observe/help/learn
about other people and cultures because I really like people. Any advice?
-- B
It's easier to have jazz as a hobby than sociology/helping people (unless you get an advice column like I have). -- Eleanor Roosevelt
i have afriend who is a guy. one night he did something that
i thought "just friends" wouldn't do. he grabbed me then layed on the
couch. this went on for a while. then he bit the back of my neck and
shoulder like he was a vampire. he also grabbed the upper half of the body
he shouldn't have. (maybe it was accident?) but does this mean he likes
me likes me? or is he still just a friend? (hi milton)
-- dee
He might not want to date you, but he definitely wants to fornicate with you. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
I found my ex-girlfriend's / cousin's tool of pleasure
underneath her bed and I traded it at school for an ounce of JuicyJuice and a
pair of Chuck Taylors. Well, it had her name inscribed on it and the
person I traded it to lost in and one of the administrators found it and
expelled her. Do you think I should buy her a new, and possibly better,
one?
-- Sanchez
Not to be vulgar, but you should buy her The Club. Then her car will never be stolen. Thieves see The Club and move on to an easier target. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
im in love with a guy who dumped me for a prep. Im not
allowed to go out with him and hes moving.
-- Michelle
You have a lot of bad luck. Every problem I ever get, all rolled into one. You should get over him, tell your parents to go pound salt and go out with him anyway, and forget about him because long distance doesn't work, respectively. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
i'm just being stupid...but why do cows moo?
-- Caress
Because God didn't give them an advice column to communicate with. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
i dont know which salinger book i like most. ive read them
all.. what do you think?
- linaaa
I've only read Catcher in the Rye, and I liked it a lot. Lisa Loeb named her band Nine Stories after his. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
I'm in love with your friend gus. He's so beautiful and i
think about him everyday. He's so sexy and my friends think i'm weird
because i'm constantly moaning his name.
I even wrote a song about him. I've never felt this way about anyone
before - I'm in love.
Please help me.
-- Enora
1) He's not my friend; he's Laura's. We're no more than aquaintances. 2) He's gay. 3) Laura did all that in high school and it didn't work (see #2). -- Eleanor Roosevelt
why do i have trouble talking about love
-- Elmo
Perhaps you don't believe in it. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
Look, I want to kill the webmaster of this site, but i don't
what I should use... Plese help!
-- A.C
Poison Vick's. Laura wakes up in the middle of the night all the time and eats some Vick's. Then she goes back to sleep with methol on her breath. Then later she wakes up feeling very sick. She feels very very sick today. So you better get her some Vick's quick before she finds a new fix. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
My boyf doesn't want to take me to the PRIDE festival. Shoul
I go with my friends without him?
-- PinkSugar
Yes, of course. Even married people are allowed to go places without their spouses. -If he minds, find someone new. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
Well, It is idiot girl. This is now the 3rd and hopefully
final request. I'm trying to ignore the fact that i'm falling for my best
*guy* friend. And i'm pushing it away but its not going away. I respect
him and his g/f. I love them both. But they do not love each other.
They both want opposite things... and every weekend he tells me he likes
me and its so odd. Because i know he lieks me and i like him. And they
both stay together for convenience. i couldn't hurt her, but i couldn't
see him hurt over the "devestating" break-up. Who knows... i'm sick of
the drama and i want to know if he'll just turn around and realize that
his happiness is more important that the screwing up his senior year...
what could i do???
-- IDIOT GIRL (3rd time)
Tell this boy that he is, under no circumstances, allowed to tell you he likes you until he is prepared to act on it. Then he'll either act on it or leave you in peace. -- Eleanor Roosevelt
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